What I mean when I say “toxic monogamy culture”

genderphobia:

nankingdecade:

  • the normalization of jealousy as an indicator of love
  • the idea that a sufficiently intense love is enough to overcome any practical incompatibilities
  • the idea that you should meet your partner’s every need, and if you don’t, you’re either inadequate or they’re too needy
  • the idea that a sufficiently intense love should cause you to cease to be attracted to anyone else
  • the idea that commitment is synonymous with exclusivity
  • the idea that marriage and children are the only valid teleological justifications for being committed to a relationship
  • the idea that your insecurities are always your partner’s responsibility to tip-toe around and never your responsibility to work on
  • the idea that your value to a partner is directly proportional to the amount of time and energy they spend on you, and it is in zero-sum competition with everything else they value in life
  • the idea that being of value to a partner should always make up a large chunk of how you value yourself

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THIS… all of this

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99precincts:

that time andy samberg was a complete savage re: the guys choice awards

Honestly Andy Samberg is such a treasure.

Soulja Boy Tell ‘Em!!!

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spoiledsweet:

Flattering angles are life

The beauty within the human form in all genders, shapes and sizes is life

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jamesyouth:

sensitiveblackperson:

babypinkacrylicnails:

when he white but not a piece of shit

My dude

Ol whitey on the left is mad as hell

yas, spread this far and wide

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Get a rat and put it in a cage and give it two water bottles. One is just water, and one is water laced with either heroin or cocaine. If you do that, the rat will almost always prefer the drugged water and almost always kill itself very quickly, right, within a couple of weeks. So there you go. It’s our theory of addiction.

Bruce comes along in the ’70s and said, “Well, hang on a minute. We’re putting the rat in an empty cage. It’s got nothing to do. Let’s try this a little bit differently.” So Bruce built Rat Park, and Rat Park is like heaven for rats. Everything your rat about town could want, it’s got in Rat Park. It’s got lovely food. It’s got sex. It’s got loads of other rats to be friends with. It’s got loads of colored balls. Everything your rat could want. And they’ve got both the water bottles. They’ve got the drugged water and the normal water. But here’s the fascinating thing. In Rat Park, they don’t like the drugged water. They hardly use any of it. None of them ever overdose. None of them ever use in a way that looks like compulsion or addiction. There’s a really interesting human example I’ll tell you about in a minute, but what Bruce says is that shows that both the right-wing and left-wing theories of addiction are wrong. So the right-wing theory is it’s a moral failing, you’re a hedonist, you party too hard. The left-wing theory is it takes you over, your brain is hijacked. Bruce says it’s not your morality, it’s not your brain; it’s your cage. Addiction is largely an adaptation to your environment.

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We’ve created a society where significant numbers of our fellow citizens cannot bear to be present in their lives without being drugged, right? We’ve created a hyperconsumerist, hyperindividualist, isolated world that is, for a lot of people, much more like that first cage than it is like the bonded, connected cages that we need. 

The opposite of addiction is not sobriety. The opposite of addiction is connection. And our whole society, the engine of our society, is geared towards making us connect with things. If you are not a good consumer capitalist citizen, if you’re spending your time bonding with the people around you and not buying stuff—in fact, we are trained from a very young age to focus our hopes and our dreams and our ambitions on things we can buy and consume. And drug addiction is really a subset of that.

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Johann Hari,

Does Capitalism Drive Drug Addiction?

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I think I can get used to this. #newdesk (at Sharp Entertainment)

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I turned #selfie (at Scott J Aveda Salon Spa)

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jungletactics:

I am extremely proud today to present the official teaser for our new Documentary series with Red Bull entitled “Streets & Avenues”. I have been shooting these since July and am fucking through the roof about all 6 of these doc’s, each is special in its own right. It’s been a blessing to shoot, direct and tell the story of each one of these amazing individuals, even if i have almost died 6 times and nearly been arrested 3 times, oh yea and 1 fight but whatever. The series goes live Tuesday, Oct 1st so tune the fuck in 

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